A young colleague of mine approached me for advice on matters of the heart.
She told me that she like a guy very much but he doesn't like her.
She said that he had just broke up with her girl friend and hence have been seeking her for emotional support. She grew to like him but he rejected her.
I simply reply to her that since he rejected her, might as well give him up. If he is meant to be yours, he will be yours. It's no point forcing love.
She then told me that she left her jacket at his shop. He brought it home as he doesn't want to leave it in the shop. He told her he wanted to take her jacket and hug it to sleep.
I am shocked at what she told me. If he doesn't like her, why give the false impression that he likes her after rejecting her? So, I request her to get the jacket back. However, she said she would like to leave the jacket with him because she wants him to keep it.
After listening to her, I get all confused. I know when it comes to the matter of the heart, sometimes, it is difficult to declare your love in front of the person you like. If it is a like, it is a like. It is never in the grey area.
Perhaps, the guy does like her but is not ready to accept a new relationship and hence such response. However, it can also be the case whereby he wants to get someone better than her and yet refuses to let her go in the meantime while he is searching. I do not want to guess since I am not him.
I wonder if there is a generation gap between me and my colleague. She seemed to be eager to wait for the love to come despite my advice not to pursue the relationship further. I wonder if she had watched too much of idol drama series. But if I am her, I think I would simply say bye bye to my puppy love and remains as friend with the guy. I think there are a lot more things out there to look forward to other than love.
Now, what will I say to my children if they were to approach me for similar advice? I guess I would have said the same thing. Hopefully, they will heed my advice and not keep dwelling on that matter. Just the old saying, "Besides love, there are still a lot to look forward to."
Monday, March 3, 2008
Sunday, March 2, 2008
|Gor Si Lai (credit TVB)|
Last evening, my husband and I were watching the TVB series. Episode 16
I felt sad watching the show as Ah Mun 周麗敏 suggested to divorce her husband, Kyle.
All because her husband had an 'affair' with her ex-girlfriend, Athena.
Ah Mun suggested divorce because Kyle, a talent in the stock market, has been working in Athena's office and had not quit his job despise Athena's advances. Kyle had not quit because he had just got his license as a stoke broker when he was about to tender his letter.
If you were Kyle, would you quit or stay on the job? If you were Ah Mun, would you have insisted Kyle to quit because you feel threaten by Athena?
I am not sure whether there will be any correct answers. My husband says, for Kyle, it all depends on what you think as important. Job or wife? For wife, whether you consider that this job is the only job that husband will be happy to work in or is it your personnal feeling more important? Is husband lying to wife because he is afraid that the wife will get upset acceptable?
Any way, Kyle promised Ah Mun to quit but did not due to the fact, he had just got his license. When Ah Mun found out, she got so upset that she request for divorce. *I think that's hasty decision* I was sadden by this. So Athena and Kyle were together after the divorce as shown in Episode 17 .
Below is the theme song from 野蠻奶奶.
Subtheme Song (from youtube)